Tuesday, February 7, 2012

You Cannot Be Upset If You Roll With The Punches

GBE 2 theme for the week is "upset.". NaBloPoMo theme for the month is "relative." I am playing with this juxtaposition because I really, really, really believe that attitude is just a matter of perspective.   I mean how can you be upset if up is relative? The view from free fall can be liberating.

Take it with a grain of salt?  (Image by Andrew Duhan, sxc.hu)
Upset requires an up and a down.  For someone like myself, a confirmed, card-carrying relativist (I have degrees in Anthropology, I think that diplomas more than count as cards) up and down is way too much like black and white.  Up or down?  Compared to what? 

To be upset is to be turned over, which isn't a bad thing in and of itself, turning most things refreshes them, but... to be disoriented from the positioning, well,  that can be just plain old upsetting.  Seriously, if you expect "up" and you get "down," you may become disappointed.  But if you expect a spatial orientation "of some sort," either up or down will fill the bill.  I am not saying you should lower your standards, or expect nothing; I am saying that evaluating the position you are in from the viewpoint that comes with the position gives you many more options than prejudging a viewpoint from which you may have never taken a gander. 

Most of the people I've met in life would much rather be happy than sad, and jubilant rather than angry.  Being upset is not an emotion.  Apple carts can end up in a mess from all sorts of feelings or emotions. 
The state of being upset comes from, in the apple cart case, rigidity.  If the cart had had more flexibility it might have been able to shift and spring back and not have tipped over. 

Upset is out of balance.  Extreme emotions are out of balance.  Fear does not need to lead to hatred.  Anger does not need to become rage.  Sadness does not have to lead to a black funk.  Happiness does not need to lead to mania.  The rigid polar nature (as in north/south, up/down, in/out) of up requires a down.  If I have to be one thing, whatever it may be, and I do not achieve that state, I may become unbalanced because of the "have to" and not because of anything actually related to the state. 

I routinely remind myself of these distinctions  because I once operated most of my life from an "upset" perspective.  Truth be told, I would not have recognized either up or down if everything in the world had righted itself before my very eyes.  I knew I had been knocked over and could not find the proper  place to be nor the view from that place because I thought I was supposed to be a version of myself that had never been knocked over.  I was more concerned with being upset, knocked over, or not in the right position or place than in taking in all that was around me from exactly where I was.  At this same time I thought expressions such as, "No matter where you go, there you are" were absolutely inane.  Now I love the playful nature of this near Buddhist perspective. 

I now try to live life in balance even though the world is koyanaskatsi and me with it much of the time.  No once can be balanced when he or she cannot move.  To be balanced, you must know how to move.  If you are rigid you are more easily knocked over by minor shifts, more easily upset.  It is all relative you know. 

Note:  Tomorrow's post will be less philosophical... maybe.  I'm off to hear a lecture by Noam Chomsky right now. 



13 comments:

  1. I liked it and agree...just been talking about the upset apple cart with my mum...smiles

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    1. checked out your blog, finally, and love it!

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  2. I have learned to go with the flow, and I pretty much always assume that great things await. It usually pans out to be the truth. :O)

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    1. what we expect so often comes to be. amazing how that works. ;-)

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  3. Glad to hear that I'm not alone in my belief in the power of perspective! Lainey, I love your moniker: Peace Artist... beautiful name. Word Nerd, saying or thinking does not make it so, but it definitely sets the stage.

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    1. As I work through this next little bit I think I may even be able to show more afterwards as an example of the power of a change in perspectives, which I know change all the time but the major changes of healing past hurt and patterns I have played out that resulted in a difficult life which is about to be turned around...smiles

      Thank you, I like the fact I no longer drink, I am an artist and I like to paint with peace in word, art & the energy I emit & bathe in...I don't always manage it but it gets more I think...and yes we set the stage with our thoughts, the ones we notice and the ones so habitual they rule us more than we realise...

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    2. Lainey you are so right! I still have a long way to go and the journey will continue until my last breath but more positive perspective I put into what I think, say, and write - the more positive I am in all ways and that helps the reframing process. I have been a peace activist for years - if you ever get bored with nothing to do you can always take a look at my less than currently kept up blog Build Peace at http://buildpeace.blogspot.com. Sometime I will have to write about the irony of being a peace activist.

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    3. oh there is always an irony to be found...smiles...

      thought I had done pretty well with the not holding onto anger thing but I still haven't sorted out my insurance for the car...and I had migraine style symptoms (which I think is symbolic as it caused me to not want to talk, listen or interact and hide myself away, while inwardly screaming and wanting to run back to my own cave...sulking again I was!

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    4. I was migrainy yesterday and know I still have a way to go on that issue too!

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  4. I enjoyed your take on this topic immensely. Like you I believe that perspective, and perception are key to the outlook a person might have. I love the new word you've shared with me, (well okay, new to me... repeats it so I can remember how it's said... "koyanaskatsi") though it might take me awhile to remember it. Thanks for the additional link to the definition too!

    One word: refreshing

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    1. You are most welcome, and glad you found your way here as I always am with those who leave the gift of a comment.

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  5. first time reading that word!! KEWEL!!! and this post! love it, living it like a fresh spring breeze!

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    1. The film Koyansquatsi is also worth checking out as is the Phil Glass score.

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